Asking for clarification at work
“I want to make sure I understood correctly. Could you explain the next step in more detail?”
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tonenConversation support built for autistic adults
188 scripts for real situations. Tone guidance. Private practice. Built for the moments when you know what you want to say but cannot find the right words under pressure.
7-day free trial. iOS only. No credit card required.
Finding words in the moment is genuinely harder for many autistic adults
Language processing under social pressure, the need to decode implied meaning, masking fatigue, and unpredictable conversations all create a load that is not just about confidence. Having the right words ready — before the moment, not during it — removes the real-time processing demand that makes conversations so costly.
tonen gives you 188 scripts organised by situation, so you are not starting from scratch every time.
What tonen helps with
Preparing for difficult conversations
Know exactly what you want to say before a meeting, a difficult message, or a conversation you have been avoiding.
Understanding what someone meant
Use tone guidance to decode whether a message was neutral, passive aggressive, or something else entirely.
Setting limits without conflict
Find wording that sets a clear boundary without over-explaining or apologising more than you need to.
Asking for what you need at work
Scripts for requesting support, clarifying instructions, or flagging when workload is unmanageable.
Declining plans or requests
Say no to social invitations, extra work, or requests that cross your limits — with wording that feels right.
Regulating when conversations go wrong
The Calm Kit gives you grounding tools for moments of overload before, during, or after a hard interaction.
Example scripts from tonen
Real wording for real situations — available in the app with tone variations and private practice.
Setting a limit with a colleague
“I am not able to take on additional tasks right now. Can we revisit this when my current work is finished?”
See this in tonenDeclining a social invitation
“Thank you for thinking of me. I am not able to come this time — I hope you have a good time.”
See this in tonenAsking for processing time
“I need a little time to think this through before I respond. Can I come back to you later today?”
See this in tonenExplaining a communication preference
“I find it easier to follow up in writing after a verbal conversation. Would that work for you?”
See this in tonenLeaving a conversation that is overwhelming
“I need to step away from this for now. I will come back to it when I am ready.”
See this in tonenWhy autistic adults use tonen
No more rehearsing the same conversation 50 times in your head — the script is already there
Private practice mode lets you work through conversations before they happen
Tone guidance helps decode what someone really meant, not just what they wrote
Start with 7 days free
Full access to all 188 scripts, tone guidance, private practice, and the Calm Kit. No credit card required.
iOS only. Android coming soon.