tonen
When you don't know what to say...
Over 180 scripts for autistic, ADHD and neurodivergent people — and anyone with social anxiety.
Free to start. No trial needed.
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What tonen gives you
Scripts Library
Over 180 ready-to-use scripts for work, family, health, education and social life. Each has 2–3 lines to try, an opt-out line, an ask-for-support line, and four tone options (Direct, Warm, Firmer, Softer).
Phone Call Mode
For the calls you keep putting off. Pick the situation, read what to say when you call, and know what to say when they say something unexpected.
Reply Helper
Paste in the message you have been staring at. Get a calm, clear reply — with tone options so it sounds like you.
Perspective Helper
Write what's going on and see 2–3 gentle ways to understand it, plus phrases you can say.
Calm Kit
Quick tools for breathing, grounding, body scan, and safe-place visualisation.
Find the right words
for any situation.
Navigating social and professional conversations can be exhausting. tonen provides a library of over 180 ready-to-use scripts with tone variations. Find your voice and communicate with confidence, without the mental load.
Untangle your
thoughts instantly.
Unsure about a text message or an interaction? The Perspective Helper acts as a non-judgmental guide, helping you interpret social cues and reframe situations to reduce anxiety.
For the calls
you keep putting off.
Pick the situation, read what to say when you call, and know what to say when they say something unexpected. Phone Call Mode gives you a script before the call — and fallbacks for when it goes off track.
For the reply
you keep rewriting.
Paste in the message you have been staring at. Get a calm, clear reply — with tone options so it sounds like you, not like an AI. No more spiralling over whether it comes across right.
Instant relief when
you need it most.
When overwhelm strikes, the Calm Kit is your pocket companion. Access evidence-based tools like Box Breathing and 5-4-3-2-1 Grounding to center yourself in seconds.
How people use tonen
Situations where tonen makes a real difference
Prepare before a chat
Open a script for the situation, read through the lines, and go in knowing what you want to say — instead of winging it.
Speak clearly and kindly
The tone options let you shift how direct or soft a script sounds, so it fits the relationship and the moment.
Ask for what you need
Scripts for asking for help, adjustments at work, or support from people in your life — without over-explaining.
Step away when it's too much
Every script includes an opt-out line and an ask-for-support line, so you always have a way to pause or exit.
Who it's for (13+)
Autistic teens and adults
ADHD teens and students
People with social anxiety
Parents supporting ND teens
Free to start
Start with 21 scripts, the Calm Kit, and one go with Perspective Helper and Reply Helper. No trial. No card.
Free
- 21 scripts
- Calm Kit
- One use of Perspective Helper
- One use of Reply Helper
- No trial. No card.
Annual
- Over 180 scripts
- Phone Call Mode
- Unlimited AI features
- Cancel anytime
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