Asking a question without fear of looking stupid
“I want to make sure I have understood this correctly. Could you clarify the part about [specific detail]?”
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tonenConversation support for people with social anxiety
Social anxiety does not go away with generic confidence advice. tonen gives you the actual words — prepared in advance, practised privately, ready when you need them.
7-day free trial. iOS only. No credit card required.
The hardest part of social anxiety is not the conversation — it is the not knowing
Social anxiety often peaks before a conversation, not during it. The uncertainty about what to say, how it will land, and what happens if it goes wrong is where most of the energy goes. tonen removes the unknown from the wording — you can prepare exactly what you want to say before the moment arrives.
It does not promise to cure anxiety. It gives you a tool that makes specific conversations less daunting by removing the real-time pressure of finding words under stress.
What tonen helps with
Conversations you have been putting off
Rehearse privately until you feel ready. Scripts for the situations you have been avoiding most.
Saying no without a guilt spiral
Clear, respectful wording for declining requests without over-explaining or apologising excessively.
Work conversations that feel high stakes
Asking for help, flagging a problem, or talking to a manager — scripts that reduce the fear of saying the wrong thing.
Decoding ambiguous messages
Use tone guidance to check whether a message is neutral or negative before anxiety decides for you.
Checking your own tone before sending
See how a message you wrote is likely to land — before you send it and start worrying about the reply.
Grounding when anxiety spikes
The Calm Kit provides breathing tools and grounding exercises for before, during, or after a stressful interaction.
Scripts from tonen
Real wording for situations that feel hard. Each comes with tone variations in the app.
Declining an invitation
“Thank you for the invite. I am not going to be able to make it, but I hope it goes really well.”
See this in tonenFollowing up on something without over-apologising
“I just wanted to check in on this — is there anything you need from me to move it forward?”
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“I want to be upfront — I do not have capacity to take this on right now without it affecting my other commitments.”
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“I would find it helpful to know if the direction I am taking is right before I go too far. Is there time to check in briefly?”
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“I need to get back to what I was working on, but this has been really helpful. Thanks for the chat.”
See this in tonenWhy it helps with social anxiety specifically
Prepare your exact words in advance — less anxiety because less unknown
Private practice mode lets you rehearse as many times as you need without judgment
Tone guidance stops anxiety filling in the blanks with worst-case interpretations
Try tonen free for 7 days
Full access to all 188 scripts, tone guidance, private practice, and the Calm Kit. No credit card required.
iOS only. Android coming soon.